Gay and dumb
- Meeting Wei Wuxian for the first time
- Wei Wuxian pranking him by swapping his poetry book with porn
- Punishing Wei Wuxian (and himself) and then being stupid and naked in the cold springs
- Doing handstands with his brother and seriously contemplating if fried watermelon rinds are delicious
- Walking 10 fucking miles because Wei Wuxian told him lotuses with stems taste better I'm so tired
- Archery competition where Wei Wuxian pulls off his headband and Lan Wangji is Very Upset about it (this is serious to lwj but it's still dumb)
Serious (and still gay)
- Stubbornly waiting outside his mother's door for her as a small child, after she'd died
- Going out of his way to help people/spirits as he walks for lotus stems, being semi-ostracized/avoided because he just has Untouchable Vibes
- Getting his home burned down and his leg broken right before getting sent off for indoctrination (cw violence)
- Defeating snurtle (or any other fighting/cultivation memory; cw violence, corpses, spirits, etc.)
- Singing a song to Wei Wuxian while they're half-dead in snurtle cave
- Composing aforementioned song